Playing Mono-Poly: The Monogamy/CNM Dynamic
It may seem like everyone is polyamorous right now, or at least wants to be. For some people, though, polyamory and other forms of consensual nonmonogamies (CNM) are not at all appealing. What do you do when you want each other, but one of you also wants…others? Rising interest in CNM means that more and more people are thinking that it might be a good fit for them, but many are already in love with or interested in someone who doesn’t want to have a multiple-partner relationship. This creates the mono/CNM dynamic, where the couple needs to figure out if they can find a common ground that meets everyone’s needs. This class introduces the origins of the CNM/mono dynamic, explains when it works and when it does not, and explores some of the compromises people are able to craft to navigate these mixed relationships. Using information from 25+ years of research, 10+ years of coaching, and examples from Dr. Eli’s two marriages where she was the monogamous partner in love with someone who wanted CNM, this workshop is based on social science with a healthy dose of lived experience and real-world feelings. In this class people can expect to learn: - Why CNM has become so popular recently - What personality traits lend themselves well to mixed relationships - Whether monogamy and nonmonogamy are choices or orientations - When the mono/CNM dynamic works well, or doesn’t work at all - How to find a compromise - What has worked for others in similar situations Class recording from 9/12/23. Please reach out to contact@tamarapincus.com if you need sliding scale.
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Playing Mono-Poly: The Monogamy/CNM Dynamic
It may seem like everyone is polyamorous right now, or at least wants to be. For some people, though, polyamory and other forms of consensual nonmonogamies (CNM) are not at all appealing. What do you do when you want each other, but one of you also wants…others? Rising interest in CNM means that more and more people are thinking that it might be a good fit for them, but many are already in love with or interested in someone who doesn’t want to have a multiple-partner relationship. This creates the mono/CNM dynamic, where the couple needs to figure out if they can find a common ground that meets everyone’s needs. This class introduces the origins of the CNM/mono dynamic, explains when it works and when it does not, and explores some of the compromises people are able to craft to navigate these mixed relationships. Using information from 25+ years of research, 10+ years of coaching, and examples from Dr. Eli’s two marriages where she was the monogamous partner in love with someone who wanted CNM, this workshop is based on social science with a healthy dose of lived experience and real-world feelings. In this class people can expect to learn: - Why CNM has become so popular recently - What personality traits lend themselves well to mixed relationships - Whether monogamy and nonmonogamy are choices or orientations - When the mono/CNM dynamic works well, or doesn’t work at all - How to find a compromise - What has worked for others in similar situations Class recording from 9/12/23. Please reach out to contact@tamarapincus.com if you need sliding scale.